It wasn’t so long ago, a very massive, life-altering, never-look-back type of transformation happened for me. I’m talking about a paradigm shift, folks. You know, the kind that either you’ve been through yourself and wake up jubilant daily? Or the kind you have heard about happening, but has always struck you as mythic? That’s the one…Satori.
Like so many others, I’ve spent most of my life seeking happiness with a kind of dedication and deliberation that, it seems, should have found me here, enlightened, much sooner. Countless forty-five minute hours, years of angst to fill my artfolio (grateful for that), and more peaks and valleys than the Poconos – I was still completely at a loss upon my 33rd birthday as to HOW to find happiness. Furthermore, I’d begun to feel settling for contentedness was my birthright and not “the pursuit of Happiness” as promised by Thomas Jefferson (great copywriter that he was). Disillusioned and, at times, depressed, well-intended loved ones would say:
“You just need to change your perspective, Tara. It’s that simple.”
To which I would reply (in my head, of course), in a mocking, half-derelict, super-snarky tone, “It’s just that simple, meh. Go fuck yourself.”
Turns out, all those well-intended mother-shifters were right. It actually is simple to change your perspective, adjust your attitude – and experience the paradigm shift. But anyone who tells you it’s easy, is definitely full of it. It requires a willingness to step out of your comfort-zone, whatever that looks and feels like. And lets face it – if you aren’t happy and want your life different, that’s the first thing you need to do: the opposite of what you feel like doing. Happiness is counterintuitive in our society of romantic comedies, “keeping up with the Jones'”, rampant consumerism in a depressed economy…for my generation, Generation X, “Happiness” is a confusing and oftentimes, staggeringly elusive notion.
My blog will begin as an intentional, committed focus to relate my own epiphanies, successes and slip-ups, as well as share any, and ALL relevant and useful information so that SHIFT HAPPENS for you as well. It’s amazing when it does. It’s a game-changer. Mine started with a Gratitude List. I’ll be discussing that tomorrow…if you’re in process – please do tell – how has/is your shift happening?