The Law of Gratitude

My take on the “Law of Gratitude” anyhow, which, in all ironic honesty – I didn’t know is a Cosmic Law until I typed the title about two minutes ago and felt a bit grandiose…Today, I am grateful for Google and Wikipedia.

If you’ll remember from last week’s post, I mentioned how my path to enlightenment, happiness, and fulfillment began with the creation of a Gratitude List. For most of my life, I had been a glass is half-empty kind of gal; and as you well know, that just isn’t any fun. Sardonic wit and dry humor aside, it really isn’t any fun. And prior to creating the Gratitude List (insert unicorns, rainbows, and angelic singing here), I was knee-deep in the antithesis of Satori: the dreaded mid-life crisis (although, being 33 I’m hopeful I’m just melodramatic). But I digress…

A series of mundane and unfortunate events had led me to the point of wondering if I was up to the task of a ‘normal’ life any more – and how exactly I would extricate myself from The Doldrums. Having become for the first time increasingly uncomfortable with myself in my life; and afraid of what my escape hatch might look like – I began to step out of my comfort zone and accept any and all offers for help and support. This was an important agreement I made with myself, as I realized my Comfort Zone wasn’t getting or keeping me comfy or cozy – rather, my Comfort Zone was making me want to curl up in a fetal position.

Check in with yourself RIGHT now:

How supportive is your Comfort Zone in life? Are you loving yourself, your life, and feeling abundance?

let me know @AscendantTara, or drop a comment. I am very interested in YOU.

Shortly after taking those first steps from that shelter, and keeping that commitment to myself to accept help and support in all its forms, I began to feel bolstered, stronger. The shift was in its beginning stages, without being so prominent for me to notice. In allowing others to support me, I actually felt strengthened. And, dare I say, bold. It’s no easy thing to take those first steps…

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” ~ Anais Nin

And so, it was, for the first time in a while, with a truly happy voice, that I answered the phone when I saw a dear friend calling. We hadn’t spoken in far too long…but my ebullience was quickly muffled by the sound of his voice choking back tears as he told me the purpose of his call. It isn’t often, in our twenties and thirties, that a friend comes to pass; and so, natural as death is birth, it is always shocking and brutally painful. What struck me was how sudden our friend’s passing was, how unexpected, how unprepared everyone was for it. After we hung up, I couldn’t shake the thought that my number could be called at any time as well. Should that day come, I would be prepared.

This is where the Gratitude List was born – simply from realizing I didn’t want to die and leave anyone I had ever loved, liked, or learned from to not know that I appreciated them, how much they meant to me, and what they had done to change my life. I started out with the most obvious people to be grateful for: my family, my closest friends, and it wasn’t long before the List grew to include people I thought I had forgotten or had not forgiven.

The List had a life of its own and it had a huge heart. After only about thirty minutes of prolific typing, I had a ten page document beaming back at me. As I read through this List, the realization of how many people had been in my life and loved me, supported me, taught me – was so vast. And there were and still are so many others – I can add to it daily (if I had the devotion).  My heart began to expand with gratitude of a magnitude I can’t do justice with words. Another epiphany (please tell me you’re still reading – because this is why making this list is surprisingly profound) was that these very different people shared a common thread: integrity, genius creativity, generosity of spirit, kindness. Lucky me! Indeed, I am blessed, but I also know about the Law of Attraction. Like attracts Like. That which I value inside so many amazing people was that which is inside me. I can tell you now, this is when my self-esteem shot through the roof. I went from feeling life a life-flunkie, to recognizing I am supported, blessed, and awesome!

That’s a pretty ginormous revelation, a whole lotta heart expansion, and the beginning of enlightenment – all from making a List, and checking it twice. I want to know your Gratitude List stories. Please, please, pretty please, share your story here, email me, or comment on the Facebook page. And, if you haven’t made a List yet – your day will come. Maybe this post will inspire you. Here’s hoping.

With Love and Gratitude,

Tara

Shift Happens

It wasn’t so long ago, a very massive, life-altering, never-look-back type of transformation happened for me. I’m talking about a paradigm shift, folks. You know, the kind that either you’ve been through yourself and wake up jubilant daily? Or the kind you have heard about happening, but has always struck you as mythic? That’s the one…Satori.

Like so many others, I’ve spent most of my life seeking happiness with a kind of dedication and deliberation that, it seems, should have found me here, enlightened, much sooner. Countless forty-five minute hours, years of angst to fill my artfolio (grateful for that), and more peaks and valleys than the Poconos – I was still completely at a loss upon my 33rd birthday as to HOW to find happiness. Furthermore, I’d begun to feel settling for contentedness was my birthright and not “the pursuit of Happiness” as promised by Thomas Jefferson (great copywriter that he was). Disillusioned and, at times, depressed, well-intended loved ones would say:

“You just need to change your perspective, Tara. It’s that simple.”

To which I would reply (in my head, of course), in a mocking, half-derelict, super-snarky tone, “It’s just that simple, meh. Go fuck yourself.”

Turns out, all those well-intended mother-shifters were right. It actually is simple to change your perspective, adjust your attitude – and experience the paradigm shift. But anyone who tells you it’s easy, is definitely full of it. It requires a willingness to step out of your comfort-zone, whatever that looks and feels like. And lets face it – if you aren’t happy and want your life different, that’s the first thing you need to do: the opposite of what you feel like doing. Happiness is counterintuitive in our society of romantic comedies, “keeping up with the Jones'”, rampant consumerism in a depressed economy…for my generation, Generation X, “Happiness” is a confusing and oftentimes, staggeringly elusive notion.

My blog will begin as an intentional, committed focus to relate my own epiphanies, successes and slip-ups, as well as share any, and ALL relevant and useful information so that SHIFT HAPPENS for you as well. It’s amazing when it does. It’s a game-changer. Mine started with a Gratitude List. I’ll be discussing that tomorrow…if you’re in process – please do tell – how has/is your shift happening?

Much Love,

Tara